Busyness Isn't Attractive

We have normalized being "busy" and nobody can keep up.

Then, as women, we compare ourselves to others and say, "Why can she do it all and I cant?"

Truth is, she isn't doing it WELL. She's exhausting herself and betraying her priorities.

If you find yourself saying:

  • I need more balance in my life.

  • I am rushing to everything.

  • When did I eat last?

  • Did I even go pee today?!

  • I can’t keep up anymore….

Friend, you are not alone!

Whether you are a stay at home mom, an entrepreneur, a working professional, you may be feeling stretched more often than you’d like and slowing down just feels impossible.

YES, IT CAN FEEL IMPOSSIBLE. But when will you start listening to your body to slow down? When it’s too late? Do you need to get to the point of exhaustion? Maybe you need a crisis to happen in order to slow down. God, I hope not!

I’m here to tell you that you CAN’T do it all, HAVE it all, BE it all AND do it all WELL. I’m not going to sugar coat this. Truth is, you have been lied to.

Seriously, not trying to be a “debbie downer” here, but forreal… when did you do it all well without betraying your priorities like:

God

Self

Significant Other

Kids

Work

Family

Truth is, someone paid for your absence.

Now, I’m not trying to guilt trip you here. I’m just trying to get you to realize that you do not have to be busy all of the time. Sure, are their short term seasons of busyness? Absolutely? As long as that short term doesn’t become long term, right?!

I just read an article from the American Psychological Association and it stated that 38% of individuals feel more stress around the holidays. That’s 38% of your clients. That’s 38% of your family. That’s 38% of your co-workers or staff.

OKAY, NOW THAT I’VE KEPT IT TOO REAL WITH YOU, NOW WHAT?!



FIRST, forgive yourself. Right now. Imagine sitting in my office laid back on the couch. Visualize yourself and repeat after me, “I’m sorry for keeping you busy and I’m sorry for not listening to you. I promise to care for you. I will no longer neglect you.

SECOND, change your mindset. Okay, this doesn’t happen over night! Write down the beliefs you have about being busy and write down the beliefs you have if you’re not busy. Do you call yourself lazy if you are not busy? Do you think you should be doing something otherwise, you feel guilty? Write down these thoughts.

THIRD, write down the new beliefs you want to start speaking over your life. Maybe you write down that you “get” to rest and enjoy the moment. Maybe you write down that you are worthy of being present.

LASTLY, seek outside support to help you work through these beliefs. It’s time we create a new narrative so you can be present and change the legacy you are leaving behind.

- Tiffany

@InfiniteHealingLLC

#youbelonghere

Tiffany Howardbusyness, holiday, stress